Toxic Abuse: When The Fog Clears

Today let's talk about those deep feelings we get in the belly and how paying more attention to them could be beneficial.. Yes, we all want to feel good, don't we? We all want to be tuned into happiness all the time. But when journeying through life, do you think a calm sea lasts forever? There are times when your boat tips up. Or a whirlwind comes along and blasts you off course.  Choices: Imagine for a moment a young apprentice of wisdom. They have just started their journey to the mountaintop. Their parents wave goodbye and pack their rucksacks with food, and water. They have Father's Wisdom inside of them, telling them where to stop to sleep safely. So they set off on the trip of a lifetime. Well before long they meet a traveling potion seller, with a gypsy caravan full of concoctions, bottles of interesting liquids and books full of magical symbols, and so on. The young person stops and buys a bottle of sugary water with the word Truth written on the label. Well, befor...

Toxic people constantly meddle in other people's lives when they see something they want or want passion with that person.  They have many plates spinning. You will never be "the one". You will be one of many. They are never contented, no matter how rich they are. How many partners they have, or possessions that they own. Basing your worth on receiving love from someone like this is a foolish thing to do. You are like chalk and cheese. One person is deeply fulfilling and has substance and the other crumbles as they are barren and have no self-love. They use every trick in the book to get what they want, to bring some moisture, and content into their lives, but it will always dry up. It's a dessert in there. The toxic one You see, if you do not like yourself or have had an emotionally cold childhood and have not repaired that hole you will have nothing to give anyone else. You might even believe everyone owes you love, attention, and anything you want. Because you hurt...

So, what do you tell yourself about you? Do you beat yourself up with words, and replay those old scenarios that make you feel repeatedly? Or do you tell you that you love and respect yourself? That you are good enough, loveable, and wanted. What about accepting yourself for who you are. You know, when we are around others who pick us to shreds, we learn to do this to ourselves. You can spend so much time with a negative person, that the messages they gave you about yourself seem hardwired to your brain. And this is the flip on the reality that was spun to you. A negative parent or other might have surrounded you with negative messages. Both non-verbal and verbal. Try weaving in new words...   Imagine you are making a new way forward and only the right words will help you on your journey. Posative affirmations, and spending time cleansing yourself of the trauma left in you will smooth the path ahead.  What about trying something new such as Yoga, EMDR, The Tapping Method, Mas...

You may think you are a mere cat, a mere mog, of patches & stripes. But look in the mirror and you will see the Tiger within. Over a long period, living with a person or family that has no regard for you will detrimentally affect your health. It is like standing on a rug and having it pulled from beneath you. In fact, if we think about the tales of  Tigers from old, we could even say that it is like standing on a magic carpet, that doesn't work.  Alakazam!! A magical journey was promised, or expected, and you in your sleep state jumped on board. But the magic carpet would not budge and when you complained to the supplier, it was swiftly removed. You trippped, fell over, and the genie promised you a better experience next time. So you jumped on board again, and guess what happened? Lessons we avoid By going to a land of make-believe in our heads. we avoid what is in front of us. You retreat to that place in times of stress as an adult. When you were a child, it was ok to do...