Tiger Skills & Magic Carpets: Waking up to the fact you are not a play thing

You may think you are a mere cat, a mere mog, of patches & stripes.
But look in the mirror and you will see the Tiger within.

Over a long period, living with a person or family that has no regard for you will detrimentally affect your health.
It is like standing on a rug and having it pulled from beneath you. In fact, if we think about the tales of  Tigers from old, we could even say that it is like standing on a magic carpet, that doesn't work.

 Alakazam!!

A magical journey was promised, or expected, and you in your sleep state jumped on board. But the magic carpet would not budge and when you complained to the supplier, it was swiftly removed.
You trippped, fell over, and the genie promised you a better experience next time. So you jumped on board again, and guess what happened?

Lessons we avoid

By going to a land of make-believe in our heads. we avoid what is in front of us. You retreat to that place in times of stress as an adult. When you were a child, it was ok to do this. especially if you could not physically escape from those who wished to harm you. But taking this coping mechanism into the adult world does not work. Deep down, you are a Tiger and you know what's going on, but you refuse to acknowledge the red flags. If you do, it means taking action and a different path. 

Taking the same actions, when you are thirty, as when you were six, will not lead to good results. 

Do you really want to end up skinned alive and on the wall as a trophy?

Your inner being knows you are not in good company, and you feel the discourse because you are now serving a new master. Playing up to their idea of what you should be, whilst not focusing on your well-being or safety. You are using the coping mechanisms of childhood, because back then you had to appease to survive. You could not escape.
Now, you apply it to people who will do you harm. They can see you have a self-imposed obligation to believe in them for the scraps and crumbs of affection they show.


So you come off your own life journey, give, and then give a lot more.
Then, you keep on getting back on that old moth-eaten rug. Believing it to be the finest weave, but hey presto, it is actually the same old thing. Full of moths. that are ready to nibble away at your heart and soul.







All writing. Sonya Vukomanovic/Lawrence  ©  08/05/2024




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