If you take fake, and vacation, you end up with a fabri-cation.

This grim holiday, a time before the whole thing falls apart is a façade.

This is the holiday of the toxic relationship for as long as it naturally lasts or comes to a jagged or blunt end. Ignoring and not calling out gaslighting and especially triangulation allows it to grow. The dark tried that involves resentment, dishonesty, and arrogance sometimes spends a lot of its time with a gradually fading person who for many reasons, does not allow themselves to face the truth and get the hell out of there.

Learning to keep your mouth shut can be developed in the playground, at home with the family, or at the children’s home. Abusers always lurk where they might find a victim. Where there has been abuse in the formative years and until the child can escape, the coping mechanism of lying to themselves regarding the conduct of others allows the young person to cope. Therefore, lying to others, and covering up for them, is a well-trodden pathway of the violated brain. We therefore as adults have a situation where oppression is allowed. You can now leave, you are an adult, or call the police and ask for help, but you don’t.

This grim holiday, a time before the whole thing falls apart is a façade.

It involves a rather nasty person doing lots of horrid stuff and a person who accepts this as the status quo. Two sides of a rusting coin. Harsh Reality.

Dictators thrive on lies. Covering up violent behavior, and calling everything that is not ok, ok. This could be the beginning of your end.

You, the pawn, enable them. That is not to say it's easy to leave, call it out. It is not.

It could mean death, no money, harassment, or leaving everything for nothing. Hopefully, the time will come when you are propelled by your desperate inner voice to leave or jump over the side of pirate Blue Beard’s ship. But you want to believe the best in people, in everyone, as that’s how you get by in life. It doesn’t rattle anyone and people wiping their feet on you is an acceptance kept at your core. Truth hurts.

When the victim consciously lies to themselves and invent sweet-smelling violets where there are thorns, they put up, shut up, and pretend the relationship is delightful.

The arrogance, conceitedness, and entitlement of the malevolent one increases. It spreads, and grows, like a black mold. The poisonous almost infinite spores of deadly deeds work their way outside this “wonderful” holiday tucked away from humanity. Contaminating the outside area. Those at the periphery can be manipulated as the victim skips around like a wound-up Pollyanna grinning and smiling. Storing each week's sinister events inside them within the glass dome they inhabit. They feel the flakes of acid snow, whilst convincing themselves it doesn't hurt and all those looking in it is a “lovely” place to be. Pretending everything is alright can be a deadly long-term performance. Not just in a very real physical sense, but for the brain, the body, and the psyche as well.

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