Why they cannot let go : The Goat Who Is The Scape

Today we talk about why toxic families come after you when you are getting on with life.

It could be that they are unsatisfied with their lives, achievements. It is for a number of reasons...In this short article we will go into a few.

Different types of harassment

When a target leaves a toxic relationship and moves on, the perpetrator finds it hard to let go. In the scenario of a toxic family and a scapegoat. The scapegoat will always be the target for the abusive members of that family They cannot face themselves in the mirror regarding the abuse they inflicted on the scapegoat. Some have no reflection, and believe in their right to abuse.

Their own children will not know the truth. Normally they team up with other toxic family members. As though the individual abuse by each one of them covertly attracts the other. Other family members will be brainwashed by slander or do anything to protect their peace. Even if that means enabling, helping the abuser. Believe it or not, it makes them feel good in some scenarios. When grouped together they then look stronger, more believable, in the their negative P.R campaign with the now adult scapegoat.

A friend, who shall remain nameless saw the brother who attacked her numerous times turn up, a few doors from her house when she divorced. The family, not that far away were involved in harassing her. They of course do not know the scapegoat. But, the brother, doing his good works, and a well seasoned liar had reached out miles from where she grew up, to make sure that whilst she divorced, everything went, just as he wanted. Power at last..

Why do others get involved.

Money, belonging, drama, maybe be highly toxic themselves. If we look at abusive people, they are very good at acting, lying. I am sure there are statistics out there somewhere I have read, linking a high percentage of these people to the criminal element.

Why they cannot let go

The hate the abusers feel for the scapegoat is real. No one must learn the truth about the abuse dished out in former years. The same friend, was threatened by an oldest sister, some years. Told that she would be stabbed to death one day. In the period of her divorce that lasted four years where she gave up reporting events to the police, the friend was almost stabbed. Luckily, a kind nieghbour stepped in who had heard about the planned events at his lodge, He organized someone to come in and help her in her local park. She was in shock and again the report to the police, was ignored...

Miles of hope...

Airways all over the world are full of planes taking passengers this way and that. Full of life and stories, some good and some bad. From British Airways to the local caravan park many people experience violent childhoods. Where they were violated, beaten, strangled, sometimes almost removed from their homes by social services for their own protection. But what we also have in those miles around the earth are perpetrators who would do anything, and yes, anything to bring down anyone who experienced of witnessed first hand, physical inflicted hate.. The truth cannot be told, for they must have their way.