Learning can be painful. Continued..

Why did we stop learning...

Well, maybe because it is hard and painful. You might have to admit to being wrong about something. Even acknowledge your part.  And that latter is a hard one.

As a large community of people, it does not make someone popular when they put their hand up and shout out loud that we are doing something wrong. Thousands of men and women who have experienced toxic relationships all report the same behaviour, words, and actions in one way or another. So why are they not believed? Or are told by professionals they are imagining things, making it up.
What is this all about?

Time and time again, in domestic abuse cases, we see the same outcomes. Two plus two always equals four. Certain behaviors in abusers always lead to death or near-fatal injuries to the victim. It happens every week somewhere.

If you attend a Freedom Course in England, you will meet many women who have had relationships and marriages to toxic abusers of varying degrees. You may be convinced that these women are that type, you know, cheap, drug users, from the wrong side of town.
Wrong. Domestic abuse occurs everywhere, from beautiful farms tucked away in the hills to cities, small flats, or caravans, cottages, and so on. In my unqualified and personal opinion, there is a common thread of psychopathy, toxic traits, and narcissism linking all abusers, man or woman.

Why do so many professionals associated with the courts, police, and social services seem to be ignorant of what so many know for certain?

There is also growing evidence that those with psychopathic tendencies show brain differences.

Research:




The above research is the tip of the iceberg. There is much more out there.


All written content S.Lawrence 01/08/25 ©


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