Fear: Why are you making yourself small?
When we are in a relationship with a toxic person, we make ourselves teeny weeny. We also make ourselves invisible, lukewarm, and always less than our full potential. We become a chameleon, changing colours to try and find the perfect shade to please the person whose admiration or approval we seek. Fear You are not fear, and it is not you. Fear is a shield that blocks us from being awake, deliberate, and able to deal with life. By that, I mean dealing with reality. It does not mean having an out-of-body hippy-dippy experience. You are not a balloon. Fear is not us. We absorb it. It surrounds us and we shrink. It stops a person from speaking up for themselves and saying no. It also stops us from going ahead and fullfilling our dreams. There are many healthy responses to real fear, like running away from someone coming after you with a stick in their hand, calling the police. But when there is no real threat we are disabled by it. When we are swimming in fear as if it is t...